Inner Peace and Joy Daily Tip: Just Say "No"!

What is the "Yes" Stress Trap?

Have you ever been, or are you now in, a stressful situation that you could have avoided if only you would have said "No" instead of "Yes"? For example: Did you take on an extra assignment and you can not realistically complete that assignment and your other obligations within the specified time? Did you agree to do something for someone and now you are struggling with your choice because if you do that particular thing, you know that it will be in opposition with your best interest? Or did you agree to do something for someone and you really do not want to do it and now you are wishing that you had said "No" instead of "Yes"?

If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you have fallen in the "Yes" stress trap and you need to get out of it as quickly as possible unless you run the risk of setting yourself up to take on more than you can handle. I know several people, including myself, who have fallen into the stress trap of saying "Yes" when they should have said "No" because they did not want to disappoint others.

How To Get Out of the "Yes" Trap A.S.A.P.

So now you are in a situation that you could have avoided if only you said "No" instead of "Yes" and you are looking for a way out. Do not fret; there is something that you can do to get out of your stressful situation immediately. This action has been around since the beginning of time and the action is " Change your mind". Although changing your mind may not be the most polite action to take, it is your right and one in which you should take as a last resort.

Whenever you take the "I changed my mind route" talk your decision over with the other invested parties and explain to them that you made an unhealthy choice and your choice is causing you to experience unbearable stress. This may disappoint the person who you did not want to disappoint in the first place but the results will be successful. You will have succeeded in removing yourself from the stressful situation.

Don't Be a People Pleaser !

In the future, it is important that you evaluate your situation before you take on responsibilities that you are unable to fulfill. Also if you have taken on a task which you are not able to complete, please make sure that you voice your decision early on so that you can give the other persons involved enough time to make other arrangements.

Finally, do not live your life as a "People Pleaser" especially if pleasing others causes you stress. You are not obligated to say "Yes" to everybody who asks you to do something just because you do not want to disappoint them. The sooner you start putting into practice telling people "No" the better your life will be. Remember, you were created to live your life with inner peace and joy and it is your job to take a stand and ensure that you do not put yourself in situations which are in conflict with your inner state of peace and joy.


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Inner Peace and Joy Daily Tips: 7 Stress Management Tips For College Students

Stress Management: Tips For College Students
The best way that you can avoid being stressed out while you are a student in college is to be prepared. I have listed 7 tips for college students to help them to be prepared and manage the day-to-day stress that may present itself while they are in college.

7 Stress Management Tips for College Students

1. Do not wait until the last minute to register for your classes: If you wait until the last minute to register for your classes you may find that the classes and the times that you prefer to take those classes are full and closed.

2. Take courses that coincides with your lifestyle:If you are a person who likes to sleep late or if you work late at night, then you should try to avoid taking early morning classes. Instead, you should check and see if your class is being offered at a time that is more fitting for you.

3. Pick up your syllabus early: Once you have registered for your class, you should go to your professor's office and pick up your syllabus at that time. The benefit about having your syllabus early is you will be able to get started on your reading assignments before the first day of class.

4. Get your books from the school library: Another benefit about having your syllabus early is that you may be able to get your books from the school library instead of having to purchase them. The school library normally carries the books that are on each teacher's requested reading list, however, the library will only have one or two copies.

5. Get to know your Professors: On the first day of registration you should go to each of your Professor's office and introduce yourself. You should also familiarize yourself with each of your Professor's office hours and do not hesitate to visit them when you have a question about your assignments.

6. Get to your class early: You always want to be professional and that means coming to each of your classes a few minutes early. An advantage about coming to class early, is your Professor may also arrive early and that will give you the opportunity to ask any questions that you may have about your assignment.

7. Turn your assignments in early: When you get your syllabus you are going to see when each of your assignments are due. The best way that you can manage your stress is by not procrastinating and turning in your assignments a few days early. When you turn in your assignments a few days early, your professor will be able to grade your work sooner and may even give you an opportunity to make corrections.

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