Inner Peace and Joy Tip: Get to the Root of the Problem

Lasting Results Begins When....

You Change The Roots instead of the Fruit

Believe it or not, it was from reading T.Harv Eker, "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth"  that I discovered, you do not fix a problem by looking at the problem, you fix the problem by getting to the root of the problem.

The problem that I am working on fixing is "Increasing my financial wealth". The root of the problem is  my relationship with money.

After reading T. Harv Eker's "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth", I discovered that the problem was not my spending habits but the true problem was the root of my spending habits which is "I was mimicking what I saw my mother doing (her relationship with money)".

My mother's attitude towards money was "You only live once and you should use money to enjoy yourself". So as an adult, I subconsciously was following what it was that I saw her doing. I used money for enjoyment and that was leaving me broke. 

Now, that I am able to recognize "Why, I do what I do" I can make the much needed changes by creating new thoughts regarding money and new habits to go along with those new thoughts.

DO YOU HAVE ANY STORIES THAT YOU WANT TO SHARE...

Inner Peace and Joy Tip: Unite

I was just thinking, "What if..."

What if God is watching each and every one of us and is thinking....

"How long will they be scattered? When will they come together (one mind) and (one purpose) to solve this situation we are in?"

Are there any pressing issues that you would like to discuss? What issues concerns you the most? This is the platform to share solutions as well vent.

Inner Peace and Joy Daily Tip: Forgive

Forgiveness and Your Personal Development

Forgiveness is a crucial component to your personal development because when you forgive, you let go of what you do not want in your life and you focus on what you do want. Some people choose not to forgive because of what they believe forgiveness does for the other person. A common statement is "This person hurt me and I will never forgive them for what they did to me." I want to stress in this article, that the recipient of your forgiveness is not as important as the healing effect that you will receive when you let go of your hurt and pain and forgive them of their wrong doings. Forgiveness creates a vacuum in your life for the good that you want.

The Law of Compensation and How it Works

The Law of Compensation states that you get what you give. The way that this law works in regards to forgiveness is every negative emotion and energy that you are holding inside towards someone else you are actually inviting to manifest into your own life. What I am saying is, rather you realize it or not, when you hold thoughts of hate, anger and resentment towards another person, place or situation those are the same emotions that you will experience in your life . For example, If I am giving off emotions of anger and resentment towards someone because of their wrong doings , then at the time of expression I am actually angry and resentful. As long as I express anger and resentment towards someone else, I will remain angry and resentful.

Is there Healing in Forgiveness?

In all honesty, I am not saying to any person who has been the recipient of harm that their situation should be ignored nor am I saying that they should not express any emotional response. What I am saying is that there is healing in forgiveness. The way that forgiveness heals is when you forgive a person, place or situation for all wrong doings what you are actually saying to your circumstance is that you do not want to live your life as a angry person, full of hate and resentment. When you release all of the negative emotions that you have attached to a person, place or situation and focus on forgiveness then you will be able to experience joy in its fullness.

Unconditional Love and Forgiveness

In order to experience joy in its fullness, you must release all negative emotions and replace them with positive emotions and with thoughts of love. When you practice unconditional love that is what you are inviting into your life. Understand, that you do not have to be in the same room with a person to practice unconditional love. You can give thoughts of forgiveness to a person as well as pray that they will be changed for the better.

Forgiveness and Prayer

Praying for forgiveness is not a one time event, forgiveness needs to be practiced everyday. The reason that forgiveness needs to be practiced every day is because every day there is a possibility that you are holding on to a negative thought that needs to be released. Some negative thoughts may be obvious to you such as when you make a negative comment after someone cuts in front of you in traffic and you hold on to that negative emotion far too long. In that case you may need to pray for the driver as well as yourself. Other situations may not be as obvious to you such as hurts and pain from your past. These are the emotions that you have buried inside. The less obvious hurts and pain requires prayer in order to be bought to surface so that you may be healed.

The Gift of Forgiveness

Remember that when you are practicing forgiveness you are releasing what you do not want in your life anymore and you are focusing on what you do want. The healing benefit of forgiveness is that it gets your mind off of the accused and back on the experience of joy and fullness of life that you were created to experience. Be mindful that you have control over whether or not you are going to experience inner joy and no person, place or situation can take your joy from you. You are in control over your state of mind because you understand that if you want to experience inner joy then you must give positive energy to others.

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Inner Peace and Joy Tip #98: Go with the wave

Inner Peace and Joy Daily Meditation Tip: The Book of Psalms will uplift your soul. Read Psalms chapters 36-40 for a Spirit Booster!



I am from Wilmington, North Carolina and I was raised a few miles from the ocean. As a child, my family went to the beach often and it is from my experiences at the beach that I learned a valuable tip on how to maintain my Inner Peace. Today's tip is go with the wave.

The Wave
I have two older sisters and growing up, I use to want to tag behind them more than anything in the world. Well, when we went to the beach, I could not tag behind my sisters because they could swim but I could not. My sisters were like fish, they would go out deep in the water about chest high. I would observe them from the shore.

Everyone once in awhile, my sisters would come closer in about waist high and they would invite me to come in with them. I would be very nervous, but they assured me that they would not let me drown; so I did not mind taking the risk. Remember, that I said earlier that I could not swim, so when I was out in the water all I would do is just stand straight up and when a wave would come, I would jump. That is, as long as the wave was not too big and then I would tumble down from the force of the wave.

If more than one wave would come back to back, then it was not uncommon for me to tumble down, get up, and get knocked back down again. So what my sisters taught me to do was instead of jumping up when I saw more than one wave coming, was to dive into the first wave and allow the wave's force to carry me to shore. Once, I was at the shore, then I would get up and go back and try it again.

How is life, similar to riding a Wave
The lesson that I learned on how to maintain my Inner Peace from being knocked down by the force of the waves is that life's challenges are similar to the wave's of the ocean. Here is what I mean, some days you are going to find are going to be good days and on those days you can stand tall because you are not facing any challenges.

I pray that you have more good days than challenging days but the truth is there will be those days that you are going to have challenges. You may even have some days when you find that your challenges are coming back to back and if you do not know how to deal appropriately with those days, you may find yourself getting knocked down by the impact of it's pressure.

So, instead of allowing life's challenges to knock you down, you have to go with the wave. When you go with the wave you admit that there are some things in life that you can not do anything about and you have to learn how to accept that fact instead of worrying yourself sick about it. You also have to understand that there are things that will occur in your life and you will have to wait on time to make the difference.

The most important thing that you are going to need to understand when you are working on maintaining your inner peace is no matter what you are going through you are going to have to maintain a positive attitude and keep your spirits up and this can best be achieved by focusing on your solutions and not allowing yourself to drown in your problems

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Inner Peace and Joy Tip # 90: Call Your Mother

Inner Peace and Joy Daily Meditation Tip: The Book of Psalms will uplift your soul. Read Psalms chapters 1-5 for a Spirit Booster!


Release Your Frustrations
Have you ever had a bad day at work, school or just a plain ole bad day in general? How did you feel? What did you do to release the energy that you were feeling? Did you release the energy in the form of frustration, agitation or anger?

When you are working on maintaining a mental state of peace you are going to have to find positive ways of expressing your energy when you are feeling stressed out. You should not keep all of your frustrations bottled up inside because what ends up happening when you keep your emotions bottled up is that they will just keep building up and building up until one day you will have an emotional explosion.

Talk to Someone/Call Your Mother
One positive way that you can release your energy and maintain your Inner Peace is by talking to someone. When you talk to someone it will help you to remain calm and peaceful because it will give you a chance to let off some of your steam. When I am in a stressful situation, sometimes all that I really need to do to keep my peace is to have someone who I can vent to. Usually after I vent I feel a lot better.

One person in particular that stands out as a great person to talk to is your mother. Mom's are great because they seem to have a natural tendency to listen and to understand their children when they are upset. Mother's always seem to know the right words to say to calm their children down. If you do not have access to your mother you should work on building a circle of friends that you can confide in.

Build A Network Of Friends
It is going to be a good idea to start developing an inner circle of friends that you can talk to when you are having a stressful day. Call up a few of your friends and ask them if it will be okay if you could call them from time to time when necessary just to vent. You need to make sure that your circle of friends will be patient with you, will sincerely listen to you and will not judge you when you are releasing your frustration to them.

Here is a suggested list of people you can call to help you calm down:

• Your Mother
• Your Parents
• Your Spouse
• Your Siblings
• Your Pastor
• Your Significant Other
• Your Best Friend
• Your Spiritual Adviser


If you have someone who you confide in and they help you to calm down, please feel free to add to this list.



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Inner Peace and Joy Tip # 89 : Bury Your Grudges

Inner Peace and Joy Daily Meditation Tip: The Book of Psalms will uplift your soul. Read Psalms chapters 146-150 for a Spirit Booster!



I have a friend, who has been holding on to a grudge for over fifteen years with a person who once was a dear friend of hers. One day, I asked my friend, why it is that she is not speaking with the person who once her friend any more? Do you know that because the incident had occurred so long ago, she had forgotten the reason why they were not speaking anymore. She just remembered that they were not speaking anymore. Wow!

Do You Hold Grudges ?
How many of you hold grudges? Many people do. Did you know that if you hold grudges for an extensive period of time that you will not successfully be able to maintain your mental state of peace and live your life full of joy?

Here Is Why
When you mentally hold on to the wrong doings that some one has done to you or you have done to someone else for an extensive period of time you are actually hurting yourself because you are mentally holding inside of your mind negative emotions of anger, grief and sorrow. When you hold on to anger, grief and sorrow for an extensive period of time, you mind is troubled and you are not at a state of Inner Peace.

Now I am not saying that if someone has harmed you that you should not feel any type of emotions after all you are human. What I am saying is that for the sake of maintaining your Inner Peace you must find a way to release your negative emotions and bury your grudges.

How To Bury Your Grudges

• Forgiveness: When you forgive someone for the wrong that they have caused you or for the wrong that you have caused them you actually have agreed to mentally "let go" of all of the painful feelings that you are holding on inside. Only then will you be able to experience permanent Inner Peace.

• Face to Face Contact: Face to Face contact is a great way to express yourself when it is done peacefully. It is possible that you may be holding on to a grudge with someone due to a lack of communication and if you get a chance to just talk through your issues you will find that you can resolve your problems and regain your Inner Peace.

• Have a Funeral : If you are you are not able to contact someone who has wronged you or you have wronged because they are no longer alive or you have lost contact with them, you can write that person a letter and tell them that you forgive them or ask them to forgive you. Next say a prayer over the letter, dig a hole and bury the letter. When you bury the letter make sure that you bury your negative feelings with the letter.
  

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Inner Peace and Joy Tip # 82: Write,Journal, Blog

Inner Peace and Joy Daily Meditation Tip: The Book of Psalms will uplift your soul. Read Psalms chapters 101-105 for a Spirit Booster!


When I am having a stressful day, I maintain my Inner Peace by writing.

How Writing Helps Me To Maintain My Inner Peace

• # 1 It gives me time to cool down:

When I get upset, I normally say the first thing that comes to my mind without any regard to how my words may impact the lives of others. Writing helps me to maintain my Inner Peace because it gives me the opportunity to express my emotions on paper and it also gives me a chance to cool down before I approach the person whose actions caused me to get upset.

• #2 Writing is a form of art

Writing helps me to maintain my Inner Peace because when I write, I get a chance to use my words to paint a picture with words. It sounds easier than it is but when it is done correctly your readers will be able to feel what you feel, see what you see and even smell what you smell.

• #3 Writing helps me to keep record

Writing in my journal is a great way for me to maintain my Inner Peace because I actually have a record of my emotions. When I review my journal I can see where I was emotionally in the past, how much I have improved, regressed or stayed the same.

• #4 Writing helps me to release my negative energy

When I am upset I have a lot of energy and instead of using my energy to explode, I write. My Inner Peace is maintained because I am focused on what I am writing about and not on the stressful situation.

• #5 Writing is a coping skill

Writing is a therapeutic way of maintaining your Inner Peace because you can use it as a coping skill. A coping skill is something that you can do that will help you to calm down when you are upset or feeling stressed out. If you enjoy writing, then you can do things such as journal, blog or even write a book.

• Do you have a coping skill ? Leave me a comment and tell me what it is that you do to calm down
  

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Inner Peace and Joy Tip # 77: Create a Vision Board

Inner Peace and Joy Daily Meditation Tip: The Book of Psalms will uplift your soul. Read Psalms chapters 71-75 for a Spirit Booster!

I get frustrated when I do not have any direction in my life and when I am frustrated I am not maintaining my state of Inner Peace. Over the years, I have learned that I focus better and I am calmer when I have objectives and goals to work towards.

I have also discovered that everybody has their own individual strengths. Some people are very creative and they have a strong imagination. These people can clearly see what it is that they want to accomplish and work towards their goals with no visual assistance.

A strong imagination is not my strength. I need pictures to help me express what it is that I am imagining in my head.

A vision board will help you to maintain your inner peace because it will help you to focus on what it is that you working towards. On your board you can post peaceful symbols, things that make you smile and things that calm you.

How To Create A Vision Board

Materials you will need:

1. Poster board
2. Markers
3. Lots of Magazines to cut out things you desire
4. Glue, tape

Instructions:
1. Use your vision board to create a visual of Inner Peace
2. In the center of your poster board use a spiritual symbol.
3. Underneath your spiritual symbol write a statement of thanks that you are receiving your desire of Inner Peace.
4. Write your statement of thanks in the present tense
5. Cut out pictures of things that make you smile, serene places, people who you love, prayers, and things that calm you down. I like the ocean. Paste these items on your poster board.
6. Place your vision board some place where you can view it often

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Inner Peace and Joy Tip #75 : Work From the Inside Out

Inner Peace and Joy Daily Meditation Tip: The Book of Psalms will uplift your soul. Read Psalms chapters 61-65 for a Spirit Booster!




I have been sharing with my auntie tips and techniques that I use to maintain my Inner Peace. The other day she asked me how well was I doing with maintaining my Inner Peace. My response was that I was doing very well because I had not dealt with many tests.

Working From The Outside In
Today, I called my auntie and I told her that I realized the reason why I was doing so well with maintaining my Inner Peace was because instead of dealing with my problems directly, I was removing all of my obstacles from out of my environment.

Whenever I faced a problem, I did not deal with the problem head on. I solved my problems by getting rid of the problem itself. The reason that I am at peace most of the time is because I have no one around me who upsets me. I call this method "Working from the outside in."

Working From The Inside Out
My method of maintaining Inner Peace is backwards because all I was doing was creating a peaceful environment and that is not how Inner Peace is suppose to work. The way that Inner Peace works is that you are suppose to have Inner Peace in the midst of your storms.

It is important that you understand that your Inner peace is all about your mindset. In other words, you have to learn how to condition your mind to be in a state of peace that is unmoved by the activities that are going on around you. When you practice changing your mindset and not your circumstance you are working from the "Inside Out".

How Do You Deal With Your Problems?

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