Inner Peace and Joy Tip # 91: Just Say "Okay"

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Have you ever lost your cool because you were trying to win an argument or convince someone that you were right and that they were wrong? How did it make you feel? I bet you probably got upset when the person stood fast on their opinion or when the person tried to contradict your opinion.

I can remember before I started practicing Inner Peace Tips, how I use to get hot-headed when someone told me that I was wrong especially when I knew that I was right. I would not stop trying to defend my position until I gathered and presented all of the facts to prove to the other person that I was right and that they were wrong. At the end of the argument, I would have a look of victory on my face and then I would say "I told you so!"

Well, when you are working on maintaining your Inner Peace you are going to have to learn how to be level headed in all situations. Remember that your state of inner peace is a calm, serene state and when you get all bent out of shape just because somebody does not agree with you then you are the loser even if you win the argument because you have lost your most valuable prize which is your "Inner Peace".

How to Win an Argument
The way that you can keep your cool when you are in a conversation and you know that the other person is wrong, is just by saying "okay". When you willingly concede, then you are not allowing yourself to be pulled into an argument. I am telling you right now, that it is not going to be easy to always concede and say "Okay" especially when you know that you are right, but with enough discipline and with the foresight that you are maintaining your Inner Peace every time that you concede to an argument, you will be able to do it.

If I were near you now, I bet I could hear you saying, "Why should I concede to an argument when I know that I am right?" Well, the reason is because it is not about who is right and who is wrong it is about maintaining your Inner Peace and when you concede and allow the other person to speak, your mental state will remain calm and peaceful.

Now, let me ask you a question, what is your motive, especially if you know for a fact that you are right and by proving the other person wrong you are just going to make that person feel bad? The reason why you should just say "Okay" when you are around a person who you know does not have all of their facts together is because you do not have to prove to anyone that you are right if it is going to cause an argument but you are responsible for maintaining your Inner Peace.

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Inner Peace and Joy Tip #48: Three Kinds of People

Inner Peace and Joy Daily Meditation Tip: The Book of Proverbs is loaded with wisdom nuggets. Read Proverbs 17, Pull out the wisdom nuggets and apply them to your life.

It is important to remember that your journey for Inner Peace is not every person in the world's journey. In your life time, you are going to discover that there are 3 different types of people: 1) People who will help you 2) People who are neutral and 3) People who are against you. One of the keys to maintaining your Inner Peace is being able to recognize each type of person and knowing how to respond to them appropriately.
#1 The Person Who Will Help You
The person who will help you achieve your journey of inner peace is usually the person who is on the same path or the person who has mastered Inner Peace and wants to help you get to where they are. These people are usually always calm, joyful, positive, encouraging and they are motivators.

#2 The Person Who is Neutral
The person who is neutral may or may not be on the same journey that you are on for Inner Peace. Their character and behaviors may even be oppositional to what you believe in but they will not try to impose their beliefs on you neither will they try to turn you against what you believe in. They pretty much mind their own business and they stay out of your way.

#3 The Person Who is Against You
The person who is against you is usually characterized by their bitterness and negative attitude. They will see a bright light in you and their sole purpose is to do everything that they can to try and put out your bright light.

It is easy to deal with people who are for you and people who are neutral when you are maintaining your Inner Peace because one is trying to help you and the other is staying out of your way. The challenge is going to be when you are dealing with people who are against you. The key to dealing with people who are against you is.,"You can not let them pull you out of your character."
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Self-Control
Control Your Emotions
Have a Positive Attitude

Inner Peace and Joy Tip# 46 : Hold Your Peace

Inner Peace and Joy Daily Meditation Tip: The Book of Proverbs is loaded with wisdom nuggets. Read Proverbs 15, pull out the wisdom nuggets and apply them to your life.




Tips for holding your peace:
Believe it or not, just because someone asks you a question does not mean that you have to give an answer. Instead you can just hold your peace.

Examples of "Holding Your Peace"
#1 If you are having a discussion with your spouse and they ask you for your opinion and you already know that if you voice your opinion it will cause an argument, it is best for you to "hold your peace." When you hold your peace in this situation, you are showing wisdom because you are keeping the peace. You can always come back another time and voice your opinion when you know that you comment is going to evoke a calm response from your spouse.

#2 If you are conversing with someone and they do not agree with what you are saying. Rather than getting into a debate with the person, just "hold your peace. " Remember, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and just because you do not agree with someone does not make that person wrong. What makes the situation right, is that you used wisdom by holding your peace and not being drawn into a debate.

#3 If you are at work and you do not agree with an assignment or if you are not getting along with a coworker, before you get your feathers ruffled "hold your peace." You can always come back after lunch or maybe the next day and voice your concerns when you are calm.

The way that you are going to maintain your inner peace and live a life full of joy is by knowing when it is the best time for you to speak. Make sure that you are using your voice to add joy to the lives of others. If you are not adding joy to the lives of others, then you should use wisdom and discipline and refrain from speaking by holding your peace.

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Self-Control
Use Wise Judgment
Tame Your Tongue